You think you can change him
This is an ideal trap that most females fall into. Entering into a relationship with someone under the classic assumption that my love would change him, can easily turn into disaster. You may have the best intentions in wanting him to stop drinking, smoking, or get a better job, in order to have a longer, healthier and lucrative lifestyle with you. However, if you push too hard for changes he doesn't want, there is all likelihood that things will backfire to you. The relationship will take a beating if he revolts and you don't see any fault on your end. If he withdraws, then you'll wonder why he's not as affectionate and loving, despite you giving everything possible in your relationship. To overcome this hurdle, try talking to your partner why you'd want this specific change, and tell out the reasons that will benefit him as a result of this change.
