5 reasons why you're still single and how to overcome it

New Delhi, Oct 21: The dating game can be a tricky one and if you're single, I'm sure you've asked yourself more than once: “Why me?” The reasons could be many like your dating style, your attitude about love, you thinking yourself as not attractive/rich/young enough, or you talking about a former partner. When trying to find love, often fear is biggest thing that stands in the way. However, the situation isn't hopeless – and neither are you! But bad dating habits may be ruining your chances for a happy and successful relationship. Here are five dating don'ts that could be sabotaging your love life:An unrealistic checklistIn your dating checklist do you have something like this: tall, handsome, good looking, slim, amazing body, nice eyes, terrific smile, great sense of humour, kind, compassionate, great cook, voluptuous! If yes, then you need to take a re-look at it. The list can be a whole lot bigger if you are looking at some perfect date. Although it is true that everyone needs someone who is above average from all the rest, it is unrealistic in the real world. If you truly want a good spouse or a partner then you must trim down your checklist. On meeting first time with your date, it is important to find common ground to spark interesting conversation and in turn find out what your personal beliefs and common interests are. However, one word of caution – you must be clear about what qualities you're willing to live with and what you can't live without. For instance, you can't live with someone who is a smoker but can probably think about if someone is having children. Setting the bar right will help you in not restricting yourself from meeting someone you might actually like. You are oversharing too fastSure, you like that person and want him/her to know everything about you – including the serious stuff – like business failure, health related problems, your fears, your addiction, or your must-have lists. Making a full disclosure within first few meetings can be disastrous since you are not aware how the other person takes up the facts that you honestly shared. Remember, less history equals more mystery. The right approach is to be a good listener first and finding all about your date, rather than filling your dating partner heart with horror stories. Before giving someone your personal information, give them time to prove their trustworthiness. It is perfect if everything is not in the perfect place where you wanted them to be, but the list you'd want is the other person being regretful with you in your life journey. It is also not advisable to share your familial skeletons in the closet. Also, be honest and truthful about who you are, as you want your date to fall in love with you as you really are. Not some amped up version.You cling like VelcroIf you're one of those who is calling your spouse 24/7 and always telling him/her that you “missed them.” Then you are probably heading for a dating disaster. Men in particular are like bloodhounds when it comes to sniffing out desperation. People that cling often feel as though they are showing their affection but this often works in the opposite. The receiving person finds no room for breathing and this smothers the relationship. However, if you try to pull away from the person who is clingy, they perceive it as a rejection. If it is something that sound familiar to you, it may be time to explore what's going on not just with you. If you feel like you need to take car your partner, you need to do a re-thinking. Instead, picture your partner as a whole and independent person who chooses to be with your because they love you not because they are dependent on your. You think you can change himThis is an ideal trap that most females fall into. Entering into a relationship with someone under the classic assumption that my love would change him, can easily turn into disaster. You may have the best intentions in wanting him to stop drinking, smoking, or get a better job, in order to have a longer, healthier and lucrative lifestyle with you. However, if you push too hard for changes he doesn't want, there is all likelihood that things will backfire to you. The relationship will take a beating if he revolts and you don't see any fault on your end. If he withdraws, then you'll wonder why he's not as affectionate and loving, despite you giving everything possible in your relationship. To overcome this hurdle, try talking to your partner why you'd want this specific change, and tell out the reasons that will benefit him as a result of this change.'My ex was the greatest'For any reason you may find yourself talking about your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. But it can easily hurt the other person since your date might not care about how much you hate your ex, or all the bad things he/she did to you. So, think twice before posting a giant red glad life this.